ANXIETY FROM PERSONALITY TRAITS: THE PERFECTIONIST AND ANXIETY
Wednesday, April 29th, 2009The perfectionist unconsciously tries to ward off his inner tension by having everything just right. If everything is in order there is nothing to worry about. His efforts to be perfectly neat, scrupulously conscientious, and meticulously clean soon bring worries of their own, and at the same time fail to ward off his inner anxieties. The result is that the perfectionist comes to live a rigid and rather constricted way of life with a constantly high level of mental tension.
These difficulties are so much the more accentuated if the perfectionist is married to, or works with, a person who is freer and less restricted than himself. Then he is constantly ill at ease, wanting to clean up after his less orderly companion so that he can once again establish the pattern of having everything just right.
A patient who sought relief from inner tension fits this picture of the perfectionist. He was a jeweller, a modest and rather humble man, and extremely conscientious and fussy about his job, so that the work he produced was of exceptionally high quality. He had three apprentices working under him. In actual fact they did good work, and no one had ever found fault with it. But he was always worrying, fearing that it might not be quite perfect and wanting to check over the work of the apprentices just as he did his own.
With the relaxing mental exercises he was able to reduce his tension, so that he could carry on in relative ease, although he still remained very conscientious and a perfectionistic workman.
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